We are each made uniquely different. God knew us before we were even in the womb and had a plan for us. So we really have no right to compare our story to someone else’s story. It is so easy to become discontent with our life when we are comparing it to someone else’s. It is easy to look from the outside of someones life and compare it to ours. We know our whole story. We know our life very well. But we do not know the other person’s. We can only see a tiny glimpse of what their life entails. It is a dangerous game to compare ourselves with others. First of all, we don’t see all the hard times they have faced. All the hard work that it took to get them to where they are. All the failures and all the heartaches. Our human nature only chooses to look at the good we can see. We begin to form a picture of perfection. We think they just have it all together in their perfect world. We all have struggles. No matter who we are we all face them. When we compare, we choose to look at our struggles and compare them to someone else’s achievements. It just encourages us to focus on the negatives of our life instead of the positives.
Comparing ourselves among ourselves often leads to a spirit of jealously and covetousness. Which in turn leads to discontentment. This one is very hard for me so it is hard to express how to overcome it. When I feel tempted to compare myself to someone, I first try to acknowledge the temptation. By acknowledging it I can then turn down a different path. I often remind myself I can’t compare my first chapter to someone else’s 20th chapter. I try to remind myself that no one is perfect and we are all at different stages in our life. Then I dig into the positives of my life and force the negative thoughts out. It is hard to change your thinking, it is definitely a learned habit. I try to fill my space with positive quotes and bible verses to keep my mind on the right track throughout the day. Keep in mind that God made you uniquely you, and each one of us needs to be glorifying him with our gifts.
Scripture to ponder:
2 Corinthians 10:12- “For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.”
Exodus 20:17- “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor’s.
Homework for the Heart:
Read 1 Corinthians 12.
1. Has God made us all the same?
2. Do we each have our own special gift from God?
3. Are there any gifts that aren’t needed?
Take a moment to ponder the meaning of this scripture. Ask God to use your unique spiritual gift for his glory. Ask him to help your rejoice with someone else’s gift instead of wishing you had it.