“When you complain, you make yourself the victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eekhart Tolle
When we complain about a situation we are doing nothing but feeding negative thinking. Complaining can create discontentment because we are choosing to dwell on the problem. Complaining about something does not fix it, rather it encourages us to continue complaining in hopes that somehow it will magically get better. There are things in life we can’t change. What good does complaining do about something that is out of our control? Then there are things in our life that we can change. On these things we need to analyze and determine if it is worth the effort to change it. If it is then work toward a plan and solution on how to change it, instead of using energy to complain!
I love the serenity prayer: “God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
I find myself so easily complaining numerous times a day.
-Why can’t it stop raining…..When will it ever rain?!
-Why do I have to clean again!? Why can’t the house just stay clean?
– Why do our taxes have to be so high?
– Why can’t we this, why can’t we that, I wish this, I wish that…
On and on the list can go. It is so easy to utter a small complaint. Just a small harmless one right? Like complaining about the weather. It doesn’t seem to stop at one small complaint. It can be so easy to throw around small complaints even in a joking manner. But really all it does it stifle out thankfulness and contentment. Complaining in essence is telling God that he is not doing it right. God is very capable and in control of everything. He knows what is best. From the smallest complaints to the biggest complaints, it is a huge thing that is very displeasing to God. The children of Israel seemed to complain about everything. As a consequence they had to wander in the wilderness for 40 years before they entered into the promised land. Is our complaining robbing us from the joys that are right in front of us?
So when we are tempted to complain, realize what we are really doing is expressing unbelief in God’s plan for our lives. Instead of expressing gratitude for what he has done, we are telling him he hasn’t done good enough.
Scripture to Ponder:
Philippians 2:14- “Do all things without murmurings and disputings.”
Ephesians 4:29: “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
Numbers 11:1- “And when the people complained, it displeased the Lord…”
Homework for the Heart:
Read Numbers 14.
Write down a few things in your life that is easy to complain about. Determine if you can change them or not. If you can change it, ask God to help you. If you can’t find something positive about the situation and thank God for that positive. Try to dwell on that positives of life!