Have you seen this video?! It is pretty thought provoking and convicting to me. I have been thinking a lot all the opinions wars and social media lately. This video has only made me think more about it and write a post on it.
Let’s admit it, social media, phones, electronics, etc are all a huge part of our lives these days. They all are very great things, but they can also bring great hurt, separation, and other negative things. I admit, these past couple months I have had a battle with social media deep down. I read the posts about “why I broke up with Facebook” and contemplate deleting it, but I just can’t. Loren and I live away from both of our families, Facebook and Instagram is a way to see what’s going on in my friends and families lives who are not around us. Yet at the same time Facebook, Pinterest, and all the techy stuff can create hurt inside me. I find myself checking “stats.” How many people viewed my Etsy shop today? Why does that blogger have more comments than me? Will my blog and handmade shop ever get as big as so and so? I find myself clicking on links like “is formula really ok for your baby?” Then become discouraged because *gasp* it really isn’t!? I start beating myself up because I can’t breast feed my child. There are so many wars and onions out there. People think their opinion is right and can easily share it with the world. They may not be aware (or care) how harmful it can be to some people. They don’t know the situations of everyone. They only know their situation and want to share with the world how the way they do things is the only way. Social media has opened the mouths of people we would have never heard before. There is a battle of opinions, facts, and articles, out there that tell us what we should do. Oh the comments. Do you ever read comments on a blog or Facebook post? People can be so dumb! There was a really great article on becoming a mom that I read before I had Kina. Basically she said there are all the opinions and choices on what baby wipes to buy, how to feed your baby, etc. She summed it up by saying what really matters is that you love your child care for their needs. All that other stuff doesn’t matter. It really encouraged me. As I started scrolling through comments there were numerous ones going on an on about how “all the other stuff” really does matter. Preaching about how we need to use organic wipes, the brand of diaper really does matter… blah blah blah. I couldn’t hardly believe how they completely missed the point!
I don’t know about you, but all these opinions and voices floating around out there create insecurity in me. It’s easy for me to compare myself to other’s because all we see on Facebook are smiling faces. It’s easy for me to see the big blogs and handmade shops and think they had it easy. To start doubting that my little internet corner is even worth being up. Yet as I type this I feel a little contradicting since I take up a social media corner too, hoping people read my stuff. Hence the war going on inside.
The more I think about it the more I am feeling it is not something to just “get rid of”, but rather monitor and use for good. There are so many positives to social media.
Connecting to family and friends who don’t live by you via FaceTime, Facebook, Instagram, Blogs
Reading an encouraging blog post/ Facebook post/ instagram post
Making an income at home via Etsy etc so I can stay home with my baby
Having my bible on my phone and constantly accessible wherever I am
All these positives are nearly impossible for me to give up. So for my life, it would be pretty radical to just delete my whole techy life! I think in today’s day and age it is probably radical for lots of people. But I feel I do need to get it under control. I hope some of these ideas can help you too!
Combating the negative of:
– Neglecting the real human time by being on social media.
- Instead of trying to cram social media into every “free second” I am going to focus on the actual face to face social time. Instead of trying to juggle feeding Kina a bottle with looking on social media, I am going to put the phone down and enjoy these cuddle times. I am going to interact with the people around me and enjoy those moments, save social media time for when I don’t have another human being around to connect with 😉
- Spend less time on social media. I don’t have to see all the new posts every single day!
- Spend more time enjoying the moments happening around me.
- Vow not to click on links that I know will most likely be opinionated (example: is formula really ok for your baby). Instead read and write posts that will be encouraging.
- Combat the judgy opinions with encouraging posts and comments.
- When the comparison bug decides to bite, combat it with thankfulness and gratitude for what I have.
- Set an amount of time per day to: check emails, Facebook, Pinterest, Read blogs, etc
- Increase reading book time/ listening to podcasts, decrease screen time.
- Teach and interact with Kina more, instead of letting electronics teach her/ occupy her.
So for me, I’m not going to stop using social media, rather I’m going to try my hardest use my little space to positively effect others.