To the soon to be mama who is doubting,
I see your questions, I understand your concerns, and I totally feel your battle. I was once there. With a big old belly I could hardly wait to meet this little baby inside me. At the same time I was wrestling with the fear of the unknown. Silent questions would taunt me, “Is this really going to be worth it?” “Are you really ready to give up your freedom?”
On and on the joy/worry would war. People would say things like “enjoy time with your husband now, because it will change.” “Sleep now while you can.” I would hear about the struggles of parenting, but it was always followed by “it’s so worth it.” I wanted to understand this “it’s so worth it” thing.
Are you there? Because if you are I want to encourage you. Rest assured that this little baby is going to be a huge blessing to you. You are going to feel so many different forms of love you didn’t know possible. That little baby is going to wrap you around their tiny finger and you are going to wonder what life was like without them.
And now I insert the phrase that had me so spooked and wondering if it was worth it. “It’s going to be hard.” It is a huge adjustment, that is no lie. You may struggle awhile, but just like anything else in this life, it will pass. You will soon find what works for your family and you will get the hang of this new phase in your life. There will come a time when you won’t want life any other way.
I am trying to find the words to comfort you, to assure you that you are about to be extremely blessed. To find the words I wanted to hear when I was questioning. I am not quite sure it is possible. I don’t think it is possible to grasp the feeling you get when your baby smiles at you. The way they completely and fully trust you for all their needs. The innocence they have. Those tiny fingers and toes. The way they hold onto your finger. The feeling you get when they give you kisses, or say mama for the first time. The sweetest hugs you can ever imagine. The way you just want to pause life when they are in such sweet stages. The way you feel like they are growing to fast, and you just want to keep them little.
Or maybe its the love that keeps growing even through the hard times of parenting. The way your child picks the exact moment to cheer you up when you are feeling down. Whatever it is, just know it really is going to be worth it and so much more. You don’t really know what you are missing in life before it happens. Your life would probably be just fine without cars, or coffee, or sunsets. If you never knew they existed, you wouldn’t know how great life is with them. I kind of feel like that’s how it is with kids, you life may be totally fine without them, but once you have them your life gets so much better.
So dear mama, your going to do great at this mama thing. It’s most likely going to be harder than you expected, but its going to be so much better than you ever dreamed.