My house isn’t perfect. In fact, when I think about it the layout is really quite weird. The backyard is pretty small. The master bathroom is so very tiny. The bedrooms are tiny, there is hardly any closets upstairs, no storage outside, the taxes are crazy expensive. I could keep going on and on about things I really don’t like. But do you know what? I really love my home.
The other week we went and looked at a house in the country. Loren really wants to end up there eventually. We heard about this house and it seemed like a really good price. Well, after looking at it, the land was super awesome, the house not so much. The seller thought it just needed a face lift, I may disagree….strongly 🙂 It needed tons of work. Which would be super fun to take on, if the price was lower. So for now we are passing. We will see if it sells for what he is asking. Anyway, with the possibility of moving looming in my mind I began to think more about my house now. I never really thought I was very sentimental about things, but I think I have become quite attached to our little house. As much as I grumble about bumping into the stove when we walk in from the garage, and long for a bigger bedroom, the thought of leaving this house made me very sad.
As I started wondering why I wouldn’t want to leave this little house, I began to realize, this wasn’t a house, it was our home. We have made it so much more than just walls and doors. We have added our own touches, we have made memories, we live our life here! I think it is super important to be content with our lives, and for as many things that I really don’t like about our house, I am so very content here. Here is a few reasons why and some ideas on how to make your house a home!
This is seriously the most important in making a house your home. Our walls have seen tears, they have seen joys, they have seen good and bad, they have seen the miracle of a new life. They started our marriage, they started the journey of parenthood. Memories alone have filled these rooms with so much love. I was telling Loren reasons I love the house, (he may not quite share my sentimental attachment), but I would share a reason, and he would be like, yep we can do that in the next house. Which he is right, but something you can’t do in the next house is make the same memories. Memories are kind of cool, you will always have them, but they also stay where you leave them. The memories made in this home, won’t be made in our next home. We can hold on to them, but they aren’t there. If you can’t find anything else you love about your home, embrace the memories made!
2. Fill it with you:
You can’t easily change the layout of your house. What you can change is the personality. You can easily add paint, decorations, furniture, etc. Make the best of what you have by adding fun accents and touches that are your style. It takes work, but it is cheap and easy to paint your cabinets, or add fresh curtains. Adding small touches around the house of things you love, takes away from things you may not like.
3. Do something yourself.
Being on a budget for us means, doing like everything ourself. That is one thing I absolutely love about our house. I look around and see things we have worked on together. The thing that stands out the most is our barn door. It took the effort of Loren, my dad, and me to put it together. I told Loren, if we move that is coming with us. Loren said, yes, unless the next person really wants it. “No no, you don’t understand, it is coming with us.” That door is special in many ways and if the next person really wants it, we will make them a new one 🙂 I am quite attached to my door. It really is my favorite part of the home. If you don’t like doing things yourself, pick something out together. The one thing we really did splurge on and get brand new was our bedroom set. We had an amish furniture store make it for us. Loren and I went together and picked out exactly what we wanted, it was custom to us. It was our engagement present to each other. Having that bedroom set in our bedroom seems to take away from what I don’t like about our bedroom. The other thing that I really like about our bedroom that we did together, is a giant picture of us two taken by a professional photographer. That is another thing you can do together, but not DIY to add meaning to your house. Add big family pictures in rooms. If you do it yourself, or have someone do it for you, picking out custom things for you really adds personalization to your home!
4. Make it fit you.
Make the rooms fit what you need, not what they were “meant for”. Our house had two full living rooms, one upstairs, one downstairs, and a mini den area off the kitchen. We never ever used the living room upstairs, we were constantly in the den. So eventually we turned the upstairs living room into my craft room. Now I constantly use it! The normal person would not have giant craft room right when you walk in the house, but we made it work by adding a barn door to easily close it off for when we have guests. Honestly I never do though, don’t judge my use of space, I like it 🙂 That really is what matters, if you like it. Make your space work for you.
5. Fill it with positivity.
Your attitude is a huge determining factor on your outlook on life. I try to fill my space with positive quotes or bible verses. From printables to chalkboards to desktop backgrounds, I try to fill my space with as much positivity to keep my mind of the negative. I am not to this stage yet, but I am sure children or grandchildren’s art will brighten your space too 🙂
6. Look for the beauty.
It’s hard for me to see the beauty when the house is an utter disaster. It’s just the stage of life we are in, toys scattered, cheerios hiding in random places, piles of laundry. It can easily overwhelm me. But when I stop and look, really look at the moment, I can find the beauty. Even if that beauty consists of solely a memory. I seriously love the quote from The Nester “It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful”. By looking at the things I love about my house and all the memories made, I overlook the negatives and things I wish were different. When I stop and really enjoy the moment, I begin to realize, this house is my home, and that alone is beautiful.