There has been a little something on my heart lately. A little something I want to share with you all. I have been thinking a little bit on my purpose and the difference I am making on the world. It’s easy for me to get wrapped up in the big things. The numbers, the outcomes, the reach I have. When I don’t see big results I can easily get discouraged. I mean don’t we all want to do great things? Isn’t it easier to feel accomplished or that you are making a difference when you see huge results? I used to work at a dog kennel. I loved grooming the dogs because I saw immediate results. They went from tangly ratty hair to clean trimmed styled hair in as little as an hour. Bam immediate stark different results. I knew I was making a difference. Fast forward to today. Motherhood is sometimes hard on me. I want to see immediate results. I am a results driven person. I clean the house, it is cluttered again within minutes. I try and teach my sweet child that this or that is no-nos and she is right back at it shaking her head and saying no-no while doing it. At times I want to cry (who am I kidding, want to? I do cry) because I feel overwhelmed with the seemingly redundant daily actives. It is hard to see the results amidst the everyday grind of motherhood.
Don’t get me wrong I love my little girl so very much and I am so thankful to be home with her. It is something I constantly remind myself when I feel down while knee deep in motherhood. As much as I want immediate results showing me and reassuring me that I am doing ok at this life thing, I am realizing that maybe my job right now it to keep going even when I don’t see results. To keep doing the best I can where I am and rest in the fact that I am making a difference. As much as I want to cry while the stress of motherhood is overwhelming me the proud feeling I get when I see my child acting out on something I have tried so hard to instill in her far outweighs the stressful moments. I believe we all go through things to make us stronger. I think it is the lessons we take from the hard stuff that defines us as humans. One of the major things I am learning from motherhood is that it is ok to do something with your whole heart and not see the results. If I feel passionate and on fire about something I do it even if I don’t see the results. I trust that God is paving the road even if I don’t see where it is going. That maybe just because the road doesn’t lead to a big city it is leading somewhere great because I am doing the best at what I am called to do.
Obviously there are some callings in our life that are more important than others. Motherhood is a very important calling for me right now, but I do feel called to make a difference in other areas. For the longest time I have been under the idea that if I don’t see results, it probably doesn’t matter. That little old me won’t make the difference that is needed to even be worth it. I realize that is not true. Mercy is my first spiritual gift. I have a huge heart for those who are hurting. For people in general. I want to help everyone from the homeless man on the street, to the person struggling with depression, to the people in third world countries. My heart aches to help them all. You show me a hurting person I want to make it better. I think that is where the lie that “little old me can’t do enough to help everyone so why try” comes in. I think that is where we lose the goal. The big pictures seems too big and out of control for one person to fix so we give up at trying. I do believe each one of us is called to a different cause. I don’t believe it has to be this huge earth shattering thing.
Aside from the first and foremost causes I am called to, I have felt drawn to the third world countries in the fashion area. Obviously I sew and that is a huge passion of mine. It is a goal of mine to have a closet filled with handmade clothes. Recently I watched a documentary called The True Cost of Fashion. It is on Netflix if you are interested in it. Before I even watched it, I had seen similar topics pop up on my Instagram and Facebook feed lately and it intrigued me. I wanted to find out more about the world behind fashion that is hidden. I always knew that there were factories over seas that made our clothes so we could buy them cheap. I always knew those people did not work for a wage I would work for, but I didn’t really think too much about it. After watching the documentary it really drew me in even more and my goal changed from just wanting to have a handmade wardrobe just because, but to also make a difference in the world. There were some things that totally opened my eyes after watching that documentary, while there were other things I didn’t necessarily agree on. Overall, this documentary ignited a fire in me to make a difference in the fashion world in my small corner of the world. It gave me all the more reason to sew. To learn more about this new found passion of mine. I am not sure where this road is leading, but I will follow the path. Even if the results don’t seem huge and earth shattering.
I want to share my thoughts with you to:
1) Inspire you to make a difference in your corner of the world whatever that may be.
2) To shine a light on an area I feel needs examining.
3) To connect with others who may feel the same.
What this blog series will be about:
This blog series will dive into the other side of the fashion world we don’t see when we buy a cheap shirt. It will be about awareness but also about what we can do. Maybe you don’t share this same passion as me. That is ok, I will also share encouragement on how to make a difference in whatever you feel called to do! I will start by talking about why I sew. Then I will talk about the effects of our cheap fashion have on others. I will then share a few solutions to the problem. Lastly I will talk about how each one of us can make a difference in this world even though we are “just one person”.
I think we can all make a difference. If you want to share your difference follow me @darcyschock on Instagram and use #differencebyone to inspire others to follow their passion. Because every single day each one of us make a difference if it feels significant or not. Why not share it to inspire all of us to do better one person at a time.
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